Today is my mom’s birthday, and it feels so weird that we won’t be celebrating together. I can’t remember the last time we didn’t celebrate together. One year on my mom’s birthday, we showed up to dinner wearing matching dresses! Haha.
Since I’ll be out of town on business travel, I’ll be celebrating with my momma as soon as I get back into town on Friday. In the meantime, I thought it would be fun to share some lessons that I’ve learned from my momma with y’all.
1. Take care of your skin. My mom put me on a three-step skincare regimen as soon as I hit middle school, and that is something I am so thankful for as an adult. I didn’t always stick with it religiously, but I’m glad that she helped me form the habit of being good to my skin, so by the time I became a lazy adult, it was second nature. Haha.
2. Be resilient. My mom is the most resilient person I know. It is awe-inspiring to watch her handle some of the situations she has been dealt in life. Her resilience has taught me that come hell or high water, the best response is to just keep pushing through and moving forward.
3. Eyebrow maintenance is very important. Around the same time she taught me about skincare, my mom taught me the importance of eyebrow maintenance. I had huge, bushy eyebrows growing up, and since kids can be assholes, my mom started having electrolysis done on my brows when I hit middle school. I don’t wear makeup every day, but you better believe that I at least make sure my eyebrows are brushed up! Haha.
I appreciate that my mother raised me to take pride in my appearance.
4. You can do anything you set your mind to when you work hard. I grew up watching my mom run a business, and that experience is one of the best gifts I have been given in life. I know running a business is not easy, but my mom made it seem effortless. I grew up with the belief that I could do anything I set my mind to, and that is because I watched my mom do the same.
5. Love people, and love those who are harder to love even extra. When my mom owned a preschool, she accepted children that were too “challenging” for other childcare centers in the region. She was so good to all of her students, but she made sure to give extra attention to those children who weren’t the most well-behaved, because she felt they needed her love and support the most.
She encouraged me to be nice to everyone, but to be extra nice to people who aren’t nice to me, because they probably need my love the most.
6. Do good things, and do them discretely. My mom is the type of person who would sneak around to do good deeds. She never wanted to draw attention to the situation or the person she was helping. I could make you a list as long as my arm of all of the children she went out of her way to feed, clothe, and sponsor on holidays, and even then it would probably only be about 5% because she was so discrete.
As I get older, I realize that a lot of people do good things for misguided reasons. There’s so much focus on putting something on a resume or getting a write-up in the paper, and while I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with that, I have a lot more respect for those who do their good deeds in silence.
7. There’s no need to hurry your current phase of life. I used to think my mom was the world’s cruelest woman for not letting me shave my legs. I now appreciate that my mom didn’t want me to grow up too fast. I’m thankful for all of the times my mom told me “no.” (And I don’t blame her for not trusting 12 year old me with a razor, because I still cut my legs 75% of the time when I shave.)
What’s the biggest life lesson that you’ve learned from your momma? Feel free to leave some happy birthday wishes in the comments, because my sweet momma reads my blog 🙂
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, MOMMA D! I LOVE YOU!!