Well y’all, I’m not Kylie Jenner (or her friend), but I have lots of recent realizations – some deep and others shallow – that I want to share with y’all.
(PS – I wrote this before the election.  No politics here!)

You cannot pour from an empty glass.  The silent auction that I planned left me mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausted.  While I realize that what I did was bigger than myself and helped a lot of women and children, I can only imagine how much more successful it could have been had I not been so drained. I love doing volunteer work, but I’ve decided to cut back on it a bit for the next few months in order to focus on the relationships I neglected and doing things that bring me joy (like writing), so that when I volunteer again, I’m putting my best food forward and I can be 100% present.

Priming products are worth the money.  If you read my recent purchases post last week, you know that I started using a foundation primer again, and it has made all of the difference (on the days I wear makeup – LOL).  I’ve been using a sample of this lash primer, as well, and this weekend I decided it was time to pull the trigger and actually purchase it.  After applying, you can see the white coating on your lashes and how it’s actually making the ends of your lashes longer!  (I snapped a photo of the difference it makes on your lashes last night!)

Air drying is causing all of my dreadlock tangle issues.  Every morning, I wake up with a really nice little dreadlock on the left side of my head, along with a smaller one on the back of my head.  This only happens when my hair gets really long, but I’m committed to long hair, so it’s something I’ll just have to work through.  Haha.  I really like to let my hair air dry because it has a really nice beachy wave texture to it, but I blow dryed it a few days ago for the first time in months, and it didn’t dreadlock.  And then I did it again the next day, and the dreadlock was still gone!  I am so relieved to have a solution to this issue, and to have a hair dryer that dries long hair faster than any other dryer I’ve tried!

People will show you who they truly are; believe them.  As I find myself over committed (again), I’ve started to really focus on how the organizations I belong to make me feel.  Am I left feeling valued, supported, and appreciated?  Or am I left feeling taken advantage of, overworked, and underappreciated?  Last week, a fellow member of our young professionals board went above and beyond supporting my work for another organization, and I can’t tell y’all how that made me feel.  Not only did it help me with my decision of where to cut back, but it also made me really want to be that person that makes everyone feel supported.

You don’t ever have to wear a full face of makeup.  Before the gala on Friday, I ended up having twenty minutes to get ready, and most of those minutes were spent trying to find my slip dress and a missing shoe.  #organized  My beauty routine that evening consisted of running a straightener over the ends of my hair, then putting on a shimmery shadow, primer + mascara, blush, and lip tint.  When I go to events, I typically spend so much time getting ready and then constantly check myself in a mirror to make sure everything is cooperating.  But I felt so much more confident in minimal makeup and only checked a mirror once.  I’m hoping this will become a trend for me!

Red wine is my favorite.  I’ve always been more of a fan of white wines, but I’ve gotten really into red recently!  I love Malbec (minus the fact that it turns my mouth black), and I’ve started to really enjoy Merlot, as well.  If you have any suggestions of red wines I should try, please send them my way!

My bathroom is being taken over by The Body Shop Products.  If you follow me on Snap, you probably saw the really awesome personalized tub of Body Butter that The Body Shop sent me.  I’ve been really fortunate to have received quite a few packages from them over the last few months, and I’m excited to do a review of all of the products I’ve received and tested out!  (PS – If you’re holiday shopping, check out their gift sets at all price points.)

It feels good to start Christmas shopping before Halloween.  As of today, I’ve purchased four Christmas gifts!  This is a new record for me.  Not only will I be a little less stressed around the holidays, but being able to spread the purchases out financially has allowed me to splurge a little bit.  If you’re starting your shopping early, be sure to check out my “Secret Santa gifts (under $25) that don’t suck!” blog post!

I want to hear from you – what are your recent realizations?!

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  1. Katie M
    November 10, 2016 / 5:15 pm

    Love this post! Recently I have realized that I cannot do it all and also that having a blogging agenda works wonders for me!xoxo,Katiechicincarolina.blogspot.com

  2. Mckenna Bleu
    November 10, 2016 / 8:06 pm

    love this!! Im a big fan of red wine!

  3. Kristine C
    November 10, 2016 / 9:50 pm

    So many good things here, Dana. I have been seeing that glass quote a lot lately and it could not be more true. For all of the opportunities and the willingness we have in ourselves to help others, to run errands, to say up an extra hour to be a little bit more productive, if you feel drained, exhausted and like a soggy piece of bread, I've learned it's time to stop. For me, and it sounds like for you too, I need to learn to take a step back and focus on myself before I get to the soggy-piece-of-bread phase. Lots of love to you!

  4. Greta Hollar
    November 11, 2016 / 5:30 am

    Christmas shopping before Halloween is my jam! I love getting ahead and taking advantage of some early sales!Greta | http://www.gretahollar.com

  5. Elly Leavitt
    November 11, 2016 / 2:57 pm

    LOL Kylie's "year of realizing things" I completely forgot. The Body Shop is the best!!

  6. Something Delightful by Rachel Timmerman
    November 11, 2016 / 9:06 pm

    Go you getting a head start on your Christmas shopping! I plan to start this weekend. Each year I say I'm going to begin earlier to spread the costs out. but I always end up procrastinating.

  7. Michelle
    November 11, 2016 / 9:25 pm

    Love this idea! I feel like was really therapeutic for you to write and you're inspiring me to do the same! Also, go you for starting Christmas shopping early—I need to get on that ASAP!

  8. Shane Prather
    November 14, 2016 / 1:09 am

    Love the sentiment about not being able to pour from an empty glass… Kind of like you can't love another until you love yourself first 🙂

  9. Tiffani
    November 14, 2016 / 4:24 am

    I usually have all of my Christmas shopping done by now, but this year I'm totally anti presents and I'm trying my hardest to gift experiences, but I am so stumped. If you're up for trying a Pinot, you'll have to try Bench or Meiomi! Two of my favs to have at home!

  10. Ashley
    November 14, 2016 / 2:44 pm

    I LOVE red wine! I'm a big cab fan. I especially love Dreaming Tree cabernet. I only have one Christmas present left to buy this year which is a miracle because I'm always shopping on Christmas Eve!xox,Ashley

  11. Oksana Radionova
    November 14, 2016 / 3:58 pm

    What a lovely post, I especially enjoyed realization number 1. I highly, highly recommend the book "Essentialism!" I think you'll be able to relate quite a bit right about now… 🙂

  12. Kayla Rivoli
    November 14, 2016 / 11:12 pm

    Can't wait to hear all about The Body Shop products! I love this post. It's so important to check in with yourself and recharge when you're feeling drained. And I'm always trying to give people the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes, you just have to take people in for what they keep showing you they are! Even if it hurts you to believe it! Kayla | kaylablogs.com

  13. Amanda Kushner
    November 16, 2016 / 3:39 pm

    Such a great post. I totally agree with your point about "when somebody shows you who they are, believe them" that's one of my mom's favorite words of wisdom.XO Amanda | http://www.glitterandspice.com