The summer before I moved off to college, my friend group basically fell apart. We were all young, full of ourselves, and never willing to admit that we were wrong. I started college with a handful of friends, and when I rushed, those friends kind of dropped off, and my sisters showed me what a true friend really was!
Looking back now, one of the things that I’m most thankful for from my time in Kappa Delta was that I learned how to be a true, honest to goodness friend. I now realize that I was a pretty sucky friend. I had friends in lots of friend groups, all very different, and it was hard for me.
Eventually, my best friend in the entire world and I began speaking again at the beginning of my sophomore year. I went to the restaurant where she works, and she was our waitress, I reached up and grabbed her hand (when I’m nervous, I’m a hand holder) and slowly but surely, our friendship healed. Now we look back at it and laugh, and I’m so thankful for that.
This week, I met up with a friend that I had been in a similar situation with. We had been best friends for a year and a half – I’m talking inseparable. She was a local celebrity in her own right, and not only did I love spending time with her, I loved that I got to enjoy the perks of going places with her! But around Halloween of my freshman year of college, that friendship ended as well. I lost a whole circle of friends over it, and they all taunted me mercilessly for partially losing my hair due to chemo pills.
And then last fall, like five years later, an olive branch was extended. We started following each other on social media sites, then social media messaging, then finally texting for a few months. This week, we met for dinner. And while I was so nervous, it felt like no time had passed since the last time that we saw each other.
One of the biggest things that propelled me towards becoming a Christian was forgiveness. I have done some questionable things in my life, but God had forgiven me! (And he continues to on a daily basis, thank goodness!) After grasping the concept of forgiveness, I prayed that God would not only help me to forgive my former friends for the things that they had said about me (which really damaged my self esteem,) but that He would help them to forgive me, too.
If you are fighting with a family member or a friend, I urge you to make things right. Pray that God will help you to find it in your heart to forgive them, and that He will do the same for them. There are so many events that I missed in my old friend’s life – including a wedding and a baby – that I truly wish we would have “kissed and made up” before. Remember, we aren’t promised tomorrow!
I hope that you are having a wonderful Sunday, and that your week gets off to a great start. Please remember that if you ever feel compelled to write a Sunday Story, shoot me an e-mail! I would love to have a guest post on here!