Recently, I saw a male account tweeting tips for ladies to be Southern Belles. And for some reason, it really rubbed me the wrong way. It wasn’t just that account. Every single day that I’m on Twitter or Facebook, I see tweets and articles telling women the way that they should behave to attract men or to be considered a lady or a Southern Belle. And one of the main leaders of this ridiculous trend is the
Y’all know what I’m talking about. The male anon accounts that make you believe there really are gentlemen left in the world. They talk about all of the cute dates that they would take women on, they stress the importance of good morning and good night texts, and they claim that their closets are filled with Vineyard Vines (which is only acceptable because they also claim to look like Vineyard Vines models.)
But here’s the thing about true gentlemen – true gentlemen don’t tell you what you must do to be worthy of their company. Not everyone in this world aspires to be a classy lady or a Southern Belle. And you know what? That’s okay! If you want to dress like Miley Cyrus or if you want to dress like Kate Middleton, that is your choice! And guess what? When you find the right person, he will love you for who you are.
I’m not a big fan of the quote claiming that there would be more respectful gentlemen in the world if ladies actually gave them something to respect. That’s nonsense. If you are a respectful person, you respect everyone. You’re nice to the lady that takes your change at the grocery store. You’re nice to the barista. You thank the homeless man that holds the door open for you. So to say that you have to be a “lady” to “earn” a man’s respect, that’s complete and total nonsense.
I have a real issue with having a male tell me that in order to be worthy of his affection I must follow this ten step plan to becoming a Southern Belle. My favorite type of e-gent is the one that talks about how he wishes that he lived in the 1950’s because it was such a “classy” era. The 1950’s was an era where it was completely acceptable to smack your wife around and have a mistress and/or a drinking problem… I’m sorry, but that’s not the kind of classy I want to be associated with!
“So be who you want & say what you feel, cause those that mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind!” – Dr. Seuss