Now that people around me are starting to realize that I’ve began dating, I have received lots of unsolicited advice. There are people telling me to never get married and to just live with C, and there are other people telling me that they think we will get married. My gastroenterologist started asking lots of personal questions. (Yikes!) This is a lot of pressure seeing as how we have only been dating for three months!
Living in the South, I feel a lot of pressure from my mom’s side of the family to be married and pregnant by now, or at least engaged. If you married young, kudos to you! You are much more mature than I am. That’s just a commitment I’m not prepared for.
It’s amazing how many weird comments I get when I say that I don’t want to be married until after law school (so at age 27) or have kids until I’m 32. I don’t want to try to be married in law school, because when I get married, I want to be very married! And I want to wait a while to have kids so that I can thoroughly enjoy being with someone before we expand our family. I want to have a long engagement so I don’t feel pressured to plan. I don’t want to live with someone before I’m married to them. These are decisions that I’ve made for my life, but I feel like they’re decisions that everyone must make separately, because at the end of the day, you only live your life!
I trust in God’s timing for my life. So while this is my grand plan for myself, God may have a completely different plan for me, and I’m okay with that. Because I trust in God’s plan, I can shrug it off when everyone on my mom’s side of the family puts the pressure on me to be happily married with children at age twenty-two. I’ll happily stuff my face with BBQ and chips & dip at the food table while everyone and their significant others chase around their children and grandchildren.
Remember to be thoughtful with those around you and their relationships. There is a difference in trying to help someone out and giving unsolicited advice. By following and trusting in God’s timing, we’ll all end up where we need to be.
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Hope you’re having a safe & warm snow day like I am!