The relationship between my boyfriend and I was nothing that I ever saw coming. What started out as a business relationship led to him driving hours out of his way to take me on a first date. And soon after, we were officially dating. There are six hours between us, but we somehow manage to spend two or three weekends a month together!
This weekend, my boyfriend came in for a work gala, and we had the absolute best time. I felt like a little kid again. I can’t even begin to describe how much fun we had. Sometimes it’s really hard to be in an LDR, but this weekend made me realize how much it’s worth it.
Here are my tips to surviving a long distance relationship:
1. Be thankful for the time that you do have together. I wish that my boyfriend and I could spend more time together, and sometimes it makes me sad that I don’t get to see him as much as I would like to. And then I think about military couples, and how they go long periods of time with limited communication, and it really puts things into perspective.
2. Save up! I know this seems like a silly one, but I’ve gotten much better at budgeting my money since I’ve started dating someone that lives 300 miles away. I’d much rather pack my lunch during the week so that I have money to shop in a new town we’re exploring or go to a fancy brunch.
3. Small gestures go a long way. One of my favorite things to do is leave little notes around in places that I know my boyfriend will find them. My boyfriend greets me with small gifts (usually a new headband) and sends me encouraging texts to cheer me on before I go into a big meeting. It’s amazing how something so small can completely turn your day around! A little picture that he drew me is now tacked up at my desk, somewhere that I can see it every day and smile.
4. Go on adventures! This weekend, my boyfriend and I travelled to a local nature conservatory. Neither of use were wearing appropriate clothing (I was in flats, and there were tree roots everywhere!) and it started to snow while we were there. But we had the best time. We’ve been together for three months, but I felt like we were closer than we’ve ever been this weekend.
5. Always be supportive. This is a big one. Some days, it will be hard to agree on anything at all. You just have to agree to disagree. But regardless of your feelings, be encouraging and supportive. I don’t always agree with everything my boyfriend does and vice versa, but that’s bound to happen because we don’t share a brain! Regardless, he supports me in all of my decisions, and that’s something that I’m thankful for.
What are your tips for surviving an LDR? I would love to hear your suggestions!
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