Twenty-Six: The Year of Relationships | Seersucker Sass

Friday, February 17, 2017

Twenty-Six: The Year of Relationships

Happy Friday, y'all!  Today is an exciting day for me; it's my 26th birthday.

I know that most people set resolutions for the year on January 1, and I do that too, but I also set a resolution every year on my birthday.  Starting a new year is hard.  In my world, I'm still wrapping up the previous year while kicking off things for the new year, at work, at home, in my community involvement, and on this blog.  The first six weeks of the year start to feel like a blur, so I use my birthday as a day of reflection and time to really think about what I want to work on between this birthday and the next one.  25 was the year of owning it.  26 will be the year of relationships.


(outfit details in this post)

I'm happy to report that last year, I did in fact own it.  I owned the good parts of my life, the bad parts of my life, the messy parts of my life, the challenging parts of my life, and the new parts of my life.  I'm not saying I was always successful (because I totally wasn't), but by "owning" my life, I grew so much as a person.  I stopped apologizing for being me.  I presented my ideas as statements instead of questions.  Last year feels like I went through five years of growth.  How am I only turning 26 after that?!

I learned to travel alone.  I learned to cook actual meals.  I learned about politics and policy.  I learned about art.  I learned about the industry that I work in.  I learned about fundraising and leadership.  I learned about self-care and letting my body rest.  I learned how to use a curling wand and a Beauty Blender.

But in the midst of all of that learning, I didn't spend much time focusing on the relationships in my life.  In fact, I really sucked at it.  I realized that I knew a lot of people, but how many of them did I truly know?  I knew their faces, but I didn't know their stories.

My goal for the next 365 days is to focus on relationships.  I want to cultivate the relationships that are currently in my life and build new ones along the way.  And I hope that when the time comes to end toxic friendships and relationships that are plagued with negative energy, I'll have the strength to do so.

If you have any tips for me on how to be better at this, please send them my way!  And thanks for your continuous love and support.  I'm more blessed than I deserve, and that has been overwhelmingly apparent for the past 24 hours.

(And if you want to follow along with the birthday celebrations today and this weekend while I'm in Nashville, be sure to follow along on Snapchat.  username:  seersuckersass)





28 comments:

  1. Happy birthday girl! I wish you the best of luck in all your relationships with the people you love and the people you meet this year <3

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  2. Happy birthday, sweet girl! You sound extremely wise beyond your years, so I have no doubt that 26 will be an extraordinary year for you! I'm not an expert on relationships by any stretch of the imagination, but you do bring up a good point about eliminating those toxic ties with people from your life. I've found that once I stopped trying to be "everyone's friend" I gained so much perspective (and time!!!) to focus on the people that truly mattered.

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  3. I love this idea. We do so often think about goals during the start of a new year but your birthday is such a great time to start a new goal for yourself!

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  4. Happy Birthday gorgeous girl! Of all the people I've met through blogging you are absolutely one of my favorites. I am always inspired by your ambition, wit and kind heart. I know you are going to own it this year with your relationships. Happy birthday, have the best time celebrating in Nashville! xxoo!

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  5. What a great goal! I bet your relationships are going to flourish :-)

    Happy birthday!!

    Mindy II amixofmin.com

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  6. Happy birthday! It sounds like 25 was great but I have a feeling 26 will be even better! :)

    xoxo,
    Kim

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  7. Happy birthday girl! I think this is a wonderful idea! I always want to strive to be better and I just love this post! Hope you have a great weekend!

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  8. Happy birthday! I love the idea of making resolutions for each year! Good luck with growing all your relationships!
    -Anna | www.fivefootandfabulous.com

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  9. happiest birthday! hope you have the best day!!

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  10. Happy birthday girl, good luck growing your relationship.

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  11. Relationships are definitely hard to maintain, so good luck!! Just don't forget to give yourself some time too :)

    http://thesofieyahdiaries.com/

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  12. This is great! Happy Birthday I hope you are able to find the relationships that mean the most in your life!

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  13. Happy birthday lady! It's good to set goals or have a theme for the year. 26 is going to be a great year for you!

    Greta | www.gretahollar.com

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  14. Happy birthday darling, I also set my resolutions on my birthday because the calendar year is usually a blur. I wish you all the best this year. own it still!

    Ash | www.theashtreejournal.com

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  15. aweee happy birthday!! I love your goal! I think your mid twenties are all about letting go of toxic relationships and building healthy ones!

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  16. I think that is a great focus from the next 365 days!

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  17. Hope you had a great birthday!:) I love your goal! I think I definitely need to get better at building and maintaining the relationships in my life.
    Katie | www.millennialonthemove.com

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  18. Happy birthday, girl! Can't wait to watch your relationships flourish!

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  19. Love this! Happy belated bday!! I am working on investing more in my friendships as well!

    www.mollyonthemoveblog.com

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  20. Happy Birthday! Hope 26 is great for you!

    xoxo,
    Katie
    chicincarolina.blogspot.com

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  21. Great thing to focus on! I tend to get too caught up on trying to be a "success" and my relationships end up taking a back burner. No bueno. Hard to get that balance, but so important and valuable!! Good luck with your journey and Happy Birthday!!

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  22. What a great goal. Belated Happy birthday. Hope you had a great day :) Btw, I'm loving the outfit.

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  23. I can't wait to see how this year works out for you! I love your outfit

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  24. Happy belated birthday pretty girl!! And that is the BEST goal you can set for yourself!

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  25. Happy belated birthday!!! I hope you had the best time celebrating in Nashville! I hope you continue to learn more about yourself and the world through each of these birthdays! You have a great goal, and such a positive one at that!

    xo
    Sami
    The Classic Brunette

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  26. Happy Birthday! Enjoy your 26th year, mine was great!

    xx,
    Stesha
    www.classicandbubbly.com

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  27. such a great goal! 26 was a good year for me - i'm hoping that it brings you all good things as well!

    xo Emily
    www.thehipsuburban.com

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  28. What a great goal for 26! Relationship building is so important!

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