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Thursday, July 21, 2016

Supporting a Friend Through an Emotional Crisis

As individuals in today's world, we all encounter sensitive scenarios, whether it be personally or by watching someone close to us go through a tough time.  As a writer, my first instinct is to write.  However, there are many situations where those pieces never leave my journal, because it's not my story to tell.

Over the course of the past year, I've watched people very close to me struggle with mental health disorders and the stigmas that come along with them.  When Steve of reached out about sharing a post on the topic, I was thrilled to have the opportunity to address something so relevant to so many of our lives in a way that wasn't invasive to anyone in my life.  I hope that you will enjoy his guest post.

Last semester, I watched my best friend almost lose control of his life.

Matt has been my best friend since elementary school. We’ve seen each other through everything — bad grades, high school drama, family troubles, you name it — so when he and his girlfriend broke up recently, I could tell he was seriously hurting.  The problems only multiplied and amplified when he started drinking.

Normally outgoing, Matt stopped having much of a social life outside the bar. He occasionally went to class, but sometimes he’d skip without real reason. He wouldn’t join us for our weekly volleyball tournaments but was always ready to hit the club. Once we were out, there was no stopping him from taking countless shots and drinking until he blacked out. He usually woke up with no memory of the night before and acted less and less like himself each day.

I kept my opinions to myself for weeks until I had to pick up Matt from the bar at 3 a.m. and realized how bad the problem truly was. On the drive home, he broke down and told me how hopeless and alone he felt. He drank to feel better and ended up feeling depressed, yet still found himself turning to alcohol for comfort. I told him we’d find a solution together, and we agreed to talk the next morning.

I correctly anticipated that Matt might not remember our conversation, so I approached the subject carefully. I told him that I cared about him, that I’d noticed some worrisome behaviors, and that I was there for him if he needed to talk. I said he no longer seemed like the happy, charismatic guy I grew up with and that I was worried he was in trouble.

Though reluctant at first, Matt finally opened up to me about his struggles with depression and drinking heavily. I told him I’d go with him to talk to a counselor at our campus health care center, and that I could even help him talk to his parents. He wasn’t immediately responsive to the idea of seeking professional help, but after time and multiple conversations he finally agreed.

Matt is on the road to recovery, but we know it won’t be easy. Though sometimes I kick myself for not seeing the signs, I focus on my new duty as Matt’s best friend: supporting him on his journey.

Steve Johnson co-created with a fellow pre-med student. The availability of accurate health facts, advice, and general answers is something Steve wants for all people, not just those in the health and medical field. He continues to spread trustworthy information and resources through the website, but also enjoys tennis and adding to his record collection in his spare time.

Happy Thursday, friends!  And please know that if you ever need someone to talk to or a reminder that someone is in your corner, I'm here.


  1. I love that you shared this, not everything in college is fun and exciting. It's so important to support friends or be able to seek support when something like this happens.

    Caiti // Caiti Nicole Blog

  2. Aw babe! Thanks for getting so personal with us. This is definitely not an easy time to go through but your friend is so lucky to have you! xo, sharon

  3. So thankful that you shared this. This happens way too often in college so with more and more posts like this hopefully people will be more likely to reach out for help!


  4. Thanks for sharing this, it's definitely a hard topic to talk about but an important one at the same time!


  5. This can be a really hard thing to do sometimes! Sometimes people don't know how to confront this situation, thanks for sharing this.

  6. Friendship is hard, just like any relationship it takes a lot of work, glad you shared.

  7. I love that you opened up about this today! This is a tricky subject, but sharing your personal experience with helping your friend overcome his emotional crisis will help others know how to approach and help their loved ones.

    xo Ashley

  8. It is so important to have people who care about you in your life <3

  9. It can be such a tough situation, especially when you don't know how to deal with their situation

  10. This is so important and I'm so glad that you wrote about it. I'm getting my master's in counseling and so many people go to their friends before they seek professional help, so it's key that we all know how to handle it.


  11. This is a great guest post! I suffer from anxiety and think it is so important to discuss it to help destigmatize it!

    The Blush Blonde

  12. Stuff like that can be so hard... For everyone. Great job being a good friend, I love that you are talking about all of this. These are the types of things I wish more people discussed.

    Sara Kate Styling

  13. Wow, great story. So glad he had a friend like you! I've had friends go through similar and it's heartbreaking.