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Thursday, July 28, 2016

Giving up Guilt

Y'all, I did something absolutely crazy and unlike myself this weekend.  I bought a Gucci bag.  And now I'm doing something very much like myself and writing a blog post about it, but not for the reasons that you would think.

Top:  Super old, similar  •  White Jeans:  Out of business boutique, similar
Bag:  Gucci  •  Heels:  Nordstrom (#Nsale!)
Earrings:  Kendra Scott  •  Ring:  David Yurman
Watch:  Gucci, similar  •  Necklace:  Rose Water Designs (c/o)

Whenever I buy something big, I plan my purchase.  Post-grad life has made me very practical, and planning my purchases always gives me plenty of time to back out of my decision with one of my go to reasons.  What if I end up needing this money for something else?  Why do I deserve frivolous product XYZ when there are so many in the world with so much less than I have?  Maybe I should just save this money to travel?

But this time was different.  I had been scouring the NSale for a camel crossbody bag with no luck. I happened to see an Instagram photo of a blogger carrying what I would learn was a Gucci Soho Disco bag.  I looked online and scoped out my bag at major retailers the day before I left for Nashville.  Then I started scoping out my bag on sites like eBay, Tradesy, The Real Real, etc.  In doing that, I realized that my bag had a really high inflation rate on resell, meaning I could sell my used bag for very close to what I paid for it.  After going through the questions I ask myself before making any kind of large purchase and realizing it checked all of my boxes, I was sold.

 I went to Nashville to visit Nicole for her birthday that weekend, tried on the bag at the Gucci counter in Nordstrom, examined it for like five minutes, and then handed it to the gentleman that worked there before I could back out of my decision.  (By the way, if you're looking to order a Gucci bag or anything from Gucci, I would love to give you his information!  It was the most positive experience I've had making a high-end purchase, and he was a big part of it because he didn't hover or try to upsell me.)

But I felt so guilty about my purchase that I literally told no one I bought it.  I spent my entire four hour drive home from Nashville feeling guilty for doing something nice for myself and buying something that I had worked my butt off for.  And that's when I decided that I was done feeling guilty when I hadn't done anything wrong.  The takeaway from this post is that I hope you will be done feeling guilty for doing absolutely nothing wrong, as well.

I sometimes feel like being a woman in today's society is like being in a pressure cooker.  We're expected to be so many things and do so many things, that we put ourselves last - our interests, our feelings, our wants and our needs - to the point that when we do something for ourselves, it scares us.  We feel bad about it, we feel guilty about it, we second guess ourselves.  So we don't do nice things for ourselves, and we are left feeling overwhelmed, underwhelmed, or just ready to explode.

I hope that you will do at least one thing this week for you and you alone  Take a yoga class, get your hair blown out, treat yourself to one of those overpriced green juices that make you so happy, crack into that rainy day fund, block time out of your calendar to lay in bed and watch Breakfast at Tiffany's.... whatever makes you happy!  And I hope that if that guilty feeling starts creeping in, you will remember that you deserve the absolute best, and you should never feel guilty for putting yourself first.

I want to know - What are you going to do over the course of this week to put yourself first?

Happy Thursday, y'all!


  1. I totally hear what you're saying girl! Big purchases (even if they are investments) can make me feel super guilty. I think life is all about balance, and sometimes it is totally okay to make a big purchase. You work hard and you definitely deserve to reward yourself with a high quality bag you can wear for years. Love your bag girl, gorgeous!

  2. This bag is gorgeous and will definitely be worth the splurge! I totally understand the struggle though haha!


  3. First of all, I'm OBSESSED with this outfit. So chic and easy to recreate (which I probably will). Second, I'm going through this same situation right now and your post is so spot on! I'm so glad you decided to buy it at the end cause not only is it a beautiful bag and it's a neutral which means you can wear it with everything but you deserve it!

  4. Simply stunning! Love the bag!

  5. This bag has been on my radar too -it's gorgeous!! The color you chose is perfect. I felt the way you did when I bought my Louis Vuitton bag, but in the end you're right - it's your business. Great choice girl!


  6. I knew that purse would be just perfect with those heels!! Love the message of this post! <3

    xoxo A

  7. I always try and think of it as investing in myself when I make a bigger purchase! You will have this purse FOREVER and may even give it to your own daughter someday! I try to do nice things for myself a lot (I am my own significant other lolol) which usually involve ice cream or Taco Bell :))


  8. Gorgeous purse! Love it <3 xo, sharon

  9. I buy so many cheap inexpensive bags that wear out so quickly. So if you save up and get yourself a high quality bag it's worth the investment. And I adore that bag!

    Greta |

  10. I can't imagine re selling my purses because i love them so much! i have wanted a Chanel purse for ages and if my acting dreams come true i want to use some of a big paycheck to get one. it's nice to treat ourselves, when we can afford it.

  11. LOVE this post! I feel the same way that you do -- I hold back from buying expensive items because I feel that my money could be used for more "practical" reasons. But it's nice to treat yourself every once in a while, which you pointed out! Thanks for sharing this!

  12. This is something I have struggled and struggled with, mostly because I was raised to never, ever make frivolous purchases. I think it's a shame because really, there should be no guilt in spending money that you worked hard to earn-and we all need to treat ourselves for working hard! I am so proud of you for breaking another wall down for women, we shouldn't have to feel guilty for wanting to splurge every once in a while...and since I just got my first official big girl job with benefits...when that first check rolls in I may have to go treat myself to the bag I've been lusting after!

    xoxo, SS

    Southern And Style

  13. Such a great post and so true-- sometimes I feel so guilty splurging on myself (and other times not so much!). I usually feel this way about getting a mani/pedi-- I know I can do it myself for less, but sometimes I just need to be pampered. The bag is gorgeous, I think you made a good buy :)

  14. Thank you for posting this! I feel that way pretty often, and I always think that I shouldn't show off things I buy for myself with my hard-earned money. I love that bag, too - you totally deserve it!

  15. Great for you girl! nothing like putting yourself first and spoiling yourself every once in a while :) xx

  16. I totally understand why you could feel guilty about this big of a purchase - like you said, it's a lot of money and what if something happens where you need the money. It's a beautiful bag, it clearly makes you SO happy and after all, it's an investment you could one day get your money back on if you chose to resell it!

  17. Sometimes you just have to splurge on the bag and savor the moment. Enjoy it! :)