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Wednesday, February 17, 2016

Twenty-Five: The Year of Owning It

Growing up in the South, I honestly believed that it was important to be married by 25.  To me, 25 meant that you were an adult, and you did adult things like have a cool job, drive a cool car, and tie the knot.  (Kids don't come until you're 28, a number I chose because that's how old my mom was when she had me.)

As I grew older (aka closer to the official adult age of 25), I realized that I had absolutely no desire to be married at 25.  I wanted a career that I loved, and at 25, I was going to be climbing the corporate ladder in the automotive industry.

As my 25th birthday got closer and closer, my anxiety became more increased.  2016 rolls around, and I panic because it's the year that I turn 25.  February gets here, and I slowly start to lose my cool.  But today I'm turning 25, and I am owning it.

turning 25 is stressful

24 was the year of doing things that made me uncomfortable.  25 is the year of owning it.

I will no longer apologize for or be embarrassed by things out of my control.  

I will stop putting so much pressure on myself to have the perfect career, especially when I only have three years of work experience.

I will invest my time and money in things that make me happy - my blog, art, brunch, learning, self improvement, and spending time with family, friends, and my boyfriend.

I will worry less about what people think about me.

I will embrace the fact that my life if messy and beautiful and overwhelming and rewarding.

And I will shake it off when someone asks me when I'm getting engaged, when I'm getting married, or if I've thought about having kids any time soon.

Cheers to 25 years.  Cheers to owning it.


27 comments:

  1. Happy Birthday! Love all of your resolutions for 25!

    xoxo,
    Katie
    chicincarolina.blogspot.com

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  2. Yes to owning it! I love these resolutions!

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  3. It's honestly so interesting to me to read about perceptions about marriage around the country, in Seattle not many people emphasize marriage at 25...I guess it's just a different expectation! I definitely don't think you should stress about marriage or having kids, you still have so much time! I think the idea of having a year of "owning it" is great. Happy birthday beautiful! I hope 25 is so so good to you!!

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  4. Happy Happy Birthday!! You own your decisions! You are such an inspiration, and I can't wait to see how amazing 25 is for you!
    Have a wonderful wonderful birthday!
    xoxo

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  5. YES!! I'm so excited to see what this year brings you. This post left me feeling inspired, you go girl!

    Kayla | kaylablogs.com

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  6. Happy late birthday!!! You got it girl! Keep having big dreams and aspiring to do awesome. Don't let things like a number or society's ideas for you get in your way...ever.

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  7. I loved reading this post! Girl, I thought I would be married at 21, have a baby at 22, and basically be "adulting" to the max LONG ago. Life happens when it happens. Own your 25-- it's been my favorite age thus far! Oh, and Happy Birthday! :)

    xo,
    Stephanie
    Diary of a Debutante
    www.thediaryofadebutante.com

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  8. Happy birthday Dana! I can completely relate to this. I just turned 25 last month and I had the same thoughts go through my head. A few years ago if you asked me where I'd be at 25, I'd have had the same response... Kids, married, house. HAHA! I agree that we have accomplished so much and should be happy where we are :-) xoxo Mindy

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  9. Once again, happy birthday lovely :) I'm glad you're owning turning 25! Everyone's life path is different (more so now than ever before) and that should be celebrated!

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  10. Happy birthday! This makes me really excited about turning 25 in 2 months! Also, I LOVE that brunch is included in one of the things that makes you happy--I"m such a big brunch fan!

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  11. Happy birthday and cheers to owning 25! I hope it's the best year yet!

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  12. Happy (belated) birthday!!!!! And cheers to you for owning 25!

    XO, Rachel
    www.seashellsandsparkles.com

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  13. Have a wonderful, lovely, birthday!!

    XO,

    Hannah from HMS Jewels
    http://www.hmsjewels.com

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  14. Happy birthday!! Hope it was great!
    P.S. I totally needed this - I'm turning 25 this year, and I'm still not sure how I feel about it!

    Kristin
    thedixiedaisy.blogspot.com

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  15. Such a great post! I can completely relate to this post and love all your life goals for 25! You're rocking it, girl! Happy birthday!

    xx, Caitlin
    www.wandererandwolf.com

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  16. Good for you! There's a huge sense of freedom you get when you accept that life is never going to turn out how you planned. I have been there and done that. Cheers to winging it.

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  17. Happy belated birthday girly. So proud of you. 25 will be a great year for you- I can just feel it! <3

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  18. Hope you had a wonderful birthday! It is amazing how you think 25 is so old when you are younger and think you will have it all together by then. But then you get to be 25 and think now wait a minute I still have my whole life ahead of me!

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  19. Happy birthday girl! I totally feel you about the pressure to have your life together by 25. I'm turning 24 this year and am certainly not where I imagined I would be as a child. Love your message about owning where you are and doing things for yourself that make you happy! I think that is definitely what life is all about xo

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  20. happy birthday girl! this is a great post

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  21. Isn't it funny how incredibly off the goals you set for yourself when you're younger end up being? I really love your decision to invest time and money in the things that make you happy.. that's what it's all about right? Happy birthday, lady!

    Alyssa with an A

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  22. I love this post! Thank you so much for sharing, I just turned 25 too, and one of my resolutions is following through.

    xoxo,
    Katie, thefutureceoblog.blogpost.com

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  23. So glad you shared this honest post! I have certain goals I hope to achieve by certain ages, but there is no real reason behind it. It's just something I've instilled in my head since I was younger. Glad to know you're owning your age! Hope 25 is your best year yet!

    Lauren | www.alilstyleblog.com

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  24. I am cracking up about your married at 25 and kids at 28 point. I can so relate and always said that I wanted to have kids between the age of 28 and 32. Have them back to back and be done while I'm still young. I also totally expected Bryce and I to be married by now. But here I am, 27 and still dating, starting a new career, and no babies in sight for at least probably another 3 years. Our generation is really changing what "grown up" looks like and it's nice we don't have to fit into that traditional mold!

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  25. Happy birthday and cheers to that! I hope this year brings you nothing but happiness!

    xoxo Lex // LexMeetsWorld

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