Wednesday Wisdom: Comfort Zones | Seersucker Sass

Wednesday, September 23, 2015

Wednesday Wisdom: Comfort Zones

Today was supposed to be a fashion post to celebrate the first day of fall, but fall brought along allergies.  My eyes currently hate me, so that post has been moved to tomorrow :)  In the meantime, I'm really excited to be sharing with y'all about my trip to leadership camp last week.  It was meant to push us out of our comfort zones, and it completely did!

I've posted a few times about how 2015 was going to be THE year that I do things that make me uncomfortable, and I've done more than I can count.  I'm so quick to get nervous about something silly (like holding my little brother's chicken in this post) that I freak out and immediately say no.  And that's no way to live life!  So I knew going into this trip that there would be a ropes course, and I was determined to do it. I completely forgot about the part where I'm deathly afraid of heights.  

I watch everyone, and I'm like, "Oh, I've totally got this."  People are running across the course, so it can't be too bad.  I finally forced myself to go, because I knew it was one of those things I would never be ready for.  So I start climbing up this ladder, and the first thing that pops into my mind is this ladder safety video I had to watch in an undgrad Admin Law class.  I immediately started feeling unsafe, even though I was hooked into a harness and in a completely controlled environment.

The ladder runs out at like the halfway point of the three, and then there are these tiny little hooks that are smaller than horseshoes that I'm supposed to climb.  And I'm like nope, not doing this because I've seen bigger hair pins than these things. 

But my group was awesome.  It was obvious that the ropes course was way out of my comfort zone, so they encouraged me and challenged me to at least get to the top of the pole.  And they counted the little rungs and told me how many I had left and cheered for me.  It was the most amazing feeling, because even though I was less impressive than 90% of my group (one girl did the course four ways - normal, no hands, eyes closed, then backwards...) I was being treated like I did something amazing!

One thing that we discussed about comfort zones that day was knowing the difference between pushing your comfort zone and entering the P Zone.  The P zone is when you start to panic, feel petrified, or paralyzed by fear.  When I decided to cuddle with the chicken we talked about earlier, I didn't feel any of these emotions.  When I wore a croptop in February, I didn't feel any of these emotions.  But when I was up on that pole, I felt myself becoming paralyzed with fear. I was starting to tense up and freeze up, and I knew from prior experiences that if I continued to push, I was going to get stuck up there.  I was so thankful for the "P Zone" discussion, because I think it's something we should all keep in mind!  

This week, I challenge you to do something that puts you a little bit out of your comfort zone!  Try a new food, join an organization that you've been interested in but know no one, go to lunch on your own... But whatever you do, watch out for that P Zone!

I hope everyone is having a wonderful week so far!  If you'd like to share, I'd love to hear about a time when you escaped your comfort zone!




  1. Love this and hearing about the experience! I'm not one to step out of my comfort zone often.

  2. Great insight, there is a difference between extending your comfort zone and pushing yourself too far. I think it is great you tried out the rope course even though you were afraid. I did a similar activity with my family in Nova Scotia last Fall and was also really afraid. The first few courses I was a bit paralyzed (I think I blacked out crossing some of the bridges way up in the trees) but by the end I was much braver. I actually ended up taking a friend back to the courses a few months later!

  3. Way to go!

    I used to be so good about pushing myself outside of my comfort zone, there wasn't really anything I would not try and I didn't really have any hard and fast absolutes that restricted me. My one true and big fear of dogs didn't even really stand in my way. It was pretty much my only one, so I was able to focus on it and work on it constantly. That all changed when I took on a new position. While I still technically had the same employer, I moved agencies, locations, industries, and position level. I didn't actually make the move because I wanted to, but for job security. I suddenly found myself in a survival mode - and not just within the workplace, my mindset spilled into every part of my life. I learned what I needed to do and nothing beyond that. I was scared of lots of things all of a sudden, and I was always feeling paralyzed when faced with something new.

    I'm not in that state anymore, thankfully, but I still find it so hard to step outside of my comfort zone, when it comes to work at least. It's like I got so used to that (necessary at the time) survival mode that I don't know anything else. I'm trying to be conscious of it and push myself, while still respecting my newly found boundaries.

    Sweet Spontaneity

  4. I think its great on how you are pushing yourself to do different! I enjoy reading about your new adventures. Keep it up!

    xoxo Dani

  5. I rarely step out of my comfort zone but that's something that I need to change. I really enjoyed this post and did a ropes course a few years ago and it was so fun and challenging.

    xoxo, Jenny || Breakfast at Lillys

  6. It's so good that you had people there to encourage you. It makes all the difference when you have supportive people around you. Well done for just going for it! I absolutely hate flying and everytime someone asks me why I still travel so much I just tell them that I don't want something like that to stop me from doing something that will make me happy!

  7. I'm so proud of you for being able to push past your fears! You're such a great influence for myself and all other women that read your blog :)

    xoxo, SS

    The Southern Stylista

  8. You are so amazing! It's such a feat to conquer fears and not feel stuck in the P zone. I need to adopt the idea of stepping out of my comfort zone.. I'm super bad about saying no before giving it a shot!

    Nicole // Chronicling Home

  9. Wow, you go girl pushing through your comfort zone. I enter the P zone every time I push through my comfort the adrenalin high I get when I succeed.

    Smitten Sophie

  10. Congrats!! This is so exciting! I love doing things like this, you did such a great job! I need to get out of my comfort zone soon!

  11. Love this post. I think it's about time I step out of my comfort zone... it's just so scary! Loved hearing about your experience. :)

    The Fashionista's Diary

  12. Really enjoyed this post! Without stepping out, we can't grow .. and growth is good!

    How 2 Wear It []

  13. Yes! I am SUCH an advocate for getting out of your comfort zone. Every time that I have, I've never been disappointed.


  14. I love jumping out of my comfort zone! I can't think of a time I've ever felt anywhere close to the P zone, but it is so awesome that you were so brave and took a step out of your comfort zone!

  15. Going out of your comfort zone is really important because it's how we are able to make changes in ourself and society! Good for you for giving it a try and knowing your limits! Sounds like a really fun experience!

    My Pop of Color

  16. I hope your allergies get better soon.

    I am definitely someone who hates leaving their comfort zone. I am trying to work on it but it is hard.

  17. Stepping out of your comfort zone is SO important. I recently did this by interviewing for a promotion at my job that I'm not even sure I'm ready for. Yikes! It was uncomfortable, but afterward, you realize that it wasn't as scary as you originally thought. Congrats to you for taking that ultimate leap to battle your fears! I'm scared of heights as well, but I've also jumped out of a plane...just ironic.

  18. Sounds like such an awesome experience! Glad you had fun!

    Diary of a Debutante

  19. I am so glad you're doing this! It's great to do that every once in a while. And cheers to you for holding that chicken! I am terrified of them too haha!

    xo //

  20. So glad to hear that you allowed yourself to experience something new while also maintaining a clear sense of self-awareness! I, too, feel as though this year has been a push outside of all things that I knew to be "comfortable", but I'm looking at it as an opportunity to GROW instead. It seems like this literal representation of you leaving your comfort zone helped, and I'm so glad!

    Melissa | These words are my own.

  21. This was such a great post to read. I'm so proud of you!

    xx. Brittany | Southern Soul

  22. Wow, you go girl! This looks really fun!

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  23. Good for you for pushing your boundaries! I try to live by the Elanor Roosevelt quote to do something every day that scares you. Even if that's dreading going to the gym, or reaching out to a "big" blogger about something! It makes the big things a bit easier for me!

    Marie H.
    Progression By Design