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Monday, August 3, 2015

Sorority Recruitment: Ready or Not, Here it Comes

Sorority recruitment is right around the corner, and the blog posts and tweets with sorority recruitment advice are out in an abundance!  There is some great information about there, but there are also some misconceptions and posts that further perpetuate stereotypes.  As a sorority alumna and a former recruitment counselor, I have created a list of things that I really want girls to know going into sorority recruitment.  I hope these tips will help you feel confident, prepared, and informed!



Here are some things that I want you to know:

1. You do not have to own specific brands to get a bid.  Nothing burns me up like seeing a blog post that makes girls think they have to wear Lilly, Tory, and Yurman to get a bid.  When I went through recruitment, I wore pieces from my closet.  I received the same number of compliments on the ruffled Forever 21 dress that I wore for Preference Night as the ruffled Marc Jacobs top I wore on Philanthropy Night.  (I was going through a ruffles phase, apparently.)  If you don't wear heels, don't pull them out for recruitment.  If you're a bohemian goddess, don't feel like you need to straighten your hair and throw on a button up and khakis.  Do you and be yourself, not who you think a sorority wants you to be.

2. Total Sorority Move is not real life.  It's satire.  And if you're Greek (or a lot of times just a female in general), you're in on the big inside joke.  If you spend time to trying to model yourself after the website, you're not going to end up where you're meant to be.

3. There are dues and rules.  I will never forget the presentation our Standards chair gave us at my new member retreat.  There were what seemed like soooo many rules, and I didn't understand it.  I had just joined a sorority, which was supposed to be really cool, and now I'm being told what I can/cannot post on social media, that I have to come to philanthropy events, and that I have to take a test?!  Sometimes the rules seemed silly, but when I graduated and was working on establishing my own personal brand, I was so thankful that my social profiles were free of profane language and questionable photos.  (Any post-grad boss I've ever had follows me on every form of social media, some of them even before they were my boss.)

I also think it's important to touch on the fact that there are dues, and they don't go away.  I know a lot of girls who went in without knowing how they would pay their dues, but just planned on figuring something out.  To be honest, most of them had to quit because they couldn't maintain the financial responsibility.  Sororities are expensive, and it's important to know how you're going to pay your dues, especially after that first semester when your abundance of graduation money runs out.  (It's also important to realize that you will have sorority expenses aside from dues.)

Something that you may not know is that some schools don't allow sorority members to talk to girls once they sign up for recruitment.  I was never a fan of the rule because I felt like it made me look like a snob, but I followed it anyway because the purpose of the rule is to protect potential new members from "dirty rushing."  (No one wants a rush infraction.)  If you're hoping to get to know sorority women before recruitment officially begins, the best way to do this is by going to events presented by the Panhellenic Council. (Confession:  I went to all of them because I wanted as much face time as possible before recruitment actually started!)

4. Sororities have standards.  And sororities want to be sure that you are willing to rise to meet their standards!  Some sororities will have higher GPA caps than the one that is set for recruitment.  It's also important to keep your social media profiles appropriate.  If you're 18 and holding a beer in your profile picture, it might be a good idea to change it.  And if you go out during the gap between school starting and recruitment, remember that girls in sororities will be out, as well!  

5. A bid doesn't define who you are.  If you don't get a bid to the house of your choice, or if you don't receive a bid at all, it's not the end of the world.  (I promise.)  I know girls who didn't get a bid their first year, rushed again their sophomore year after having an opportunity to improve their grades or get to know girls in the chapters, and received a bid from their first choice chapter!  I know other girls who didn't receive bids and decided to take their talents to other on campus organizations where they absolutely thrived.  I cannot stress enough that a bid to a Greek organization does not define your worth.

If you're interested in reading more about my sorority experiences,  check out these posts:

Sorority Recruitment:  What to Seek in Sisters  (my most popular blog post ever!)


If you have any recruitment related questions or questions about my experiences with Greek Life, please leave me a comment about it or shoot me an email (seersuckersass(at)gmail(dot)com)!  If you have requests for recruitment related posts, I'd love to hear them!

Happy Monday, y'all!


XX,

SS

Disclaimer:  I am writing this as a sorority alumna who wants to help girls feel confident and informed going into sorority recruitment.  This is not an endorsement of any sororities, nor is this written on behalf of a sorority or the National Panhellenic Council.

29 comments:

  1. Alabama's recruitment starts Friday and I am FREAKING OUT. They hit 2500 PNMs the other day and I'm so intimidated. Thank you for this, it's exactly what I needed! Now to read all your other sorority posts hahahah
    XO Ashlee
    preperella.blogspot.com

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  2. I don't plan on joining a sorority but this post definitely seems super helpful! A few of my friends want to join sororities so I'll be sure to share this post with them!

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  3. These are such great tips! I was SO nervous rushing, but it was the best decision of my college career!
    xoxo

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  4. Great post - could not agree more with everything you said!

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  5. These are great tips for girls going through recruitment now. Let me age myself by saying I went through in the early 2000s. To me, the whole process is way more hardcore than it use to be (then again I do live in Alabama, where greek life is a whole different situation then other parts of the country).


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  6. I love that you're offering sincere advice & that you stressed that getting (or not getting) a bid is not a measure of your worth. I went through & got a bid, but declined because once I was in that moment-I realized that the sorority world wasn't for me. I loved lots of the girls I met & am still friends with them to this day, but if I had stayed, who knows what might be different in my life today. It all works out the way it was supposed to :)

    xoxo, SS

    The Southern Stylista

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  7. This is so helpful. I can't believe it's been at least 3 years since we met because of my sorority article for Levo!

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  8. Yes yes and yes! I absolutely agree with all of these.

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  9. Beautiful post! I think that there are too many misconceptions out there that attract the wrong kind of attention to the Greek community. Yes, there are girls who are boy-crazy and brand obsessed in sororities. But there are also girls who want to work out with you, volunteer with you, study the bible and pray with you, sing with you, and dance with you! You just have to let your inner self shine through during recruitment so you are placed in a house with like-minded people.

    Thanks for sharing!
    xo. A Peachy Sonder

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  10. These are really great tips. I was so so nervous prior to sorority recruitment, I wish I would have read a post like this. I think it is so important to remember that even if you don't get a bid to the house that was initially your first choice to still give it a shot! It's difficult to know everything about a specific sorority in just one week, if a house wants you it's worth trying it out.

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  11. As a fellow sorority woman and a rho gamma of two years, I really think you did a great job summing up the important stuff! Nice job :)

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  12. An excellent excellent post! I will probably retweet this to my followers as recruitment gets closer. :-) I'm also thinking about writing more on my own thoughts about recruitment soon too- since this is my last year as a collegiate member!

    xoxo A
    www.southernbelleintraining.com

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  13. These are fantastic pieces of advice!! So ready for recruitment!!

    Carley @ preppylane.blogspot.com

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  14. Such a wonderful post with some fabulous advice!

    The last one is definitely my favorite of the bunch. It's definitely a great experience but it does not make or break you as a person regardless of if you are involved in Greek life or decide it isn't for you.

    xoxo, Jenny || Breakfast at Lillys

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  15. Rush week was the most horrible, longest week of my life. I ended up accepting a bid with Tridelta but had to drop after two semesters because I had too much on my plate. :(

    Lauren
    The Fashionista's Diary

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  16. Haha, I was totally VP of Recruitment for my Panhellenic Council back in the day, so this is bringing back so many memories! I wish I was more conscious about dues before joining, my parents were kind of mad that I went and did it without their permission and I didn't have a job. This is a great list of tips!

    xo, Alicia | www.aliciatenise.com

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  17. Excellent post!! I agree with all of these points!!

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  18. I love all of these tips! Being in a sorority is nothing like TSM!

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  19. Great tips! I really love the one on dues and rules. It seems like so many people come into greek life not expecting that and it catches them off guard. It's definitely important to realzie that those will be in place before you sign a bid card versus after.

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  20. There are some days where I wish I would've joined a sorority but, for the most part, I'm happy with my decision. I don't think I could see myself fitting in with any of the sororities at Temple. However, I am in an honors fraternity which is amazing! I've met so many great people through my frat. But at Temple we're definitely not perceived as a "real" organization. It's frustrating! We wear letters, have a philanthropy, have a formal, and hold ourselves to high standards just like the other Greek orgs on campus! Haha sorry this turned into a vent session. But I really enjoyed reading this different perspective of sorority recruitment :)

    Kayla | kaylablogs.com

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  21. This is great for some friends are mine who are thinking about pledging!

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  22. I may add-


    Chew or not to chew gum ;)



    It worked for me, but only because you fell in love with me then! Haha only kidding, but make sure MINTS are the way to go. Lots and lots of talking. :)

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    1. Hahaha, oh my gosh. You kill me! So glad I fell in love with you when I stopped judging you ;) Mints for sure! Love you lots, baby little!

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  23. I never rushed because I just never felt like being in a sorority would be my thing, so I literally know nothing of the process! Eye opening, and props to you for breaking the stereotypes.

    Coming Up Roses

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  24. I never went through rush, however I definitely love that you're dispelling some of the stereotypes I had heard prior to going to school!

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  25. In the UK we don't have sororities (wish we did!) but we do have clubs and societies, so this is very helpful for that :) Thanks for sharing!

    Pop over to my blog!

    Sarah
    https://everydayconcepts.wordpress.com

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