Why I'm Not Always the "Best Blogger" | Seersucker Sass

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Why I'm Not Always the "Best Blogger"

It all started when I was preparing to take the LSAT.  "Wouldn't it be so fun if I had hot pink Legally Blonde themed pencils for my test?"  I thought to myself.  So I browsed Etsy, and I found some.  I was tickled because hello, that's the perfect Instagram photo.  Long story short, my pencils were going to cost like $16 with rush shipping, so I didn't do it.  Ridiculously enough, sometimes I still look back on that missed opportunity.

One of the toughest things for me about blogging has been comparing myself to other bloggers.  When I see that someone is able to start blogging full time after a year of being a blogger, I wonder what they have that I don't.  I have to stop and remind myself that we're all walking different paths, come from different backgrounds, and possess different skills.  We all feel different levels of comfort with different things.

I'm a list maker, so I made a list of "blogging guidelines" for myself.  Whenever I'm discouraged because I hate the background of a photo (aka the vinyl siding at my apartment complex) or no one likes my photo on Instagram, I remind myself of these guidelines.  Not only do they snap me out of my funk, but they help me to maintain my integrity and the brand of my blog.

1. I will hold myself to a standard of grace, not perfection.  Say it with me - I will hold myself to a standard of grace, not perfection.  I can't tell y'all how many times I say this to myself a day.  Your worth is not defined by likes on a photo.  We're saved by God's grace; you don't get to cut the line in Heaven because you have 50,000 Instagram followers.

2. I will be authentic, and I will know my brand.  I will never be the girl that posts photos of fruit taken in a grocery store or selfies from dressing rooms or a bouquet of flowers in a handbag, even though I always see them getting a trillion likes on Insta.  It's just not who I am as a person.  I am the girl that will post a photo that's a little blurry because I was excited about something and moving around, and there is joy radiating from my pores.  We all have different brands, and I think it's important for us to be true to our personal brands.

3. I will know my strengths.  In Honor's British Literature, my teacher made us all stand up and brag on ourselves.  It was absolutely mortifying, but it really made me think about what I was good at.  I'm not saying that you need to be prepared to scream your strengths in a British accent, but knowing what you're good at is a good thing to know.  I'm not really the best at design, so when I 'm trying to design something and seconds away from pitching my Macbook across the room, I remind myself that design isn't really my thing, but hey, I really have an eye for mixing patterns.  Knowing what I'm good at helps me to feel confident.

4. I will build my tribe.  I'm really not a great photographer.  I'm learning, but it's mostly luck when I get a good shot.  But my boyfriend, brother, mom, and aunt are amazing with a camera.  They're my tribe.  My dad can immediately pick out the best photo shoot location anywhere we go.  He's my tribe.  The ladies of Millennial Blogger Network?  They're my tribe.  I try to surround myself with people who are better than me, with hopes of learning from them.

5. I will be content while continuing to grow.  Photos stress me out.  Have I mentioned how much I hate the vinyl siding from my apartment that continues to be my background?  But some days, my boyfriend works late, I have a meeting after work, and we have 20 minutes to get the photos done before the sun goes down.  I'm learning to be content with the circumstances in my life, while continuing to brainstorm ways to do things more efficiently and aesthetically pleasing.

Now that I've shared with y'all what my "blogging guidelines" are, I'd love for y'all to share yours with me!  What are your strengths?  Who makes up your tribe?

Happy Wednesday, y'all!




  1. This was a post I really needed! I should make up some of my own! I love that you have these to remind yourself! I think you've done an amazing job building a blog! Happy to be apart of your tribe!

  2. I loved this post!!! I have a really hard time comparing myself to other bloggers. I love your guidelines and want to make some of my own :)

  3. I love guidelines you have for yourself. I am guilty of comparing myself to everyone other blogger as well. This was really helpful!

    Mikayla | A Seersucker State of Mind.

  4. With blogging, it's funny how so many bloggers are very similar (some are almost identical/interchangable). For me, I know I have some great ideas but I get busy/lazy & have like 20 post that are drafts because of it.

    At this point I know that being different & writing what I'm interested in is more important to me than posting about the same thing that you see on ten other blogs trying to be "popular".


  5. Great post, definitely something I've had to remind myself a few times! So glad to be a part of your tribe!
    xx, Mikkaela
    The Southwestern Prepster

  6. Absolutely love tip number one! When I start comparing myself to other bloggers, I try to remind myself that Instagram isn't an accurate representation of anyone's life, so I'm only seeing the things that they want me to see.

    Tori A. from Prep For A Day

  7. I used to stress over when I could get my photos done for the week and now I just let it happen naturally and don't panic when life gets in the way, it makes blogging more enjoyable for me. These are great rules to go by.

  8. This is SO GOOD! My favourite is number 1... it's something that has been on my heart for awhile. Grace upon Grace upon Grace.

    Sweet Spontaneity

  9. I compare myself to other bloggers too -- it's hard not to.
    I love these guidelines and a lot of them are fairly similar to my own personal guidelines.
    This post came at the right time.

    xoxo, Jenny || Breakfast at Lillys

  10. I absolutely love this post, especially number 2! So many people sell out and let go of who they are in exchange of products or whatever. Thanks for sticking true to you & being such a great inspiration and influence for myself :)

    xoxo, SS

    The Southern Stylista

  11. Love love love this in so many ways! xo

  12. I loved reading this post. I just started blogging and I find myself doubting about my blog and comparing it with others a lot. Is my content good? Am I being myself? Will I find my niche? Why does X blogger answer to Y blogger but not to me?

    Reading your guidelines reminded me that no matter what, I still love my little corner in the blogging world and that it makes me very proud to see a new post go up when I publish it!

    I'm very glad to have found your blog, and I'll definitely be following along. Check out mine! :)

    Ane | Basque Prep

  13. It is so easy to get wrapped up in the "perfect" curated instagram but like you I also want to be authentic. I don't like in a Parisian palace, my life is blurry and messy and imperfect but that can be magical too (:

  14. Oh I love this! I always tend to doubt myself, especially when I read about traffic reports from other bloggers. It stresses me out! But comparison is the thief of joy. I love all of the commitments that you're making for yourself. Knowing your strengths will really carry you far - not just with your blog (which is excellent), but in other spheres of life!

    Alessandra | blog.pumpup.com

  15. This is so important. It can be really difficult not to compare yourself to other people in general - and it's elevated because of social media and the bloggosphere. I'm going to take these tips to heart too.

  16. YASS girl! So real and so important for all of us <3

  17. I loved this post! We all need this reminder once in a while

  18. Comparing yourself to other bloggers is one of the hardest thing to not do as a blogger yourself!! I know I definitely do it more than I should!

  19. These are great guidelines and it is SO important not to compare ourselves! It's difficult but essential. I still find myself guilty of doing that ALL of the time!

    The Fashionista's Diary

  20. I've been blogging for over 4 years and I ALWAYS compare myself to others. It's definitely one of my biggest flaws when it comes to blogging as I feel that it definitely effects me. I always wonder what I'm not doing that these other girls are who literally just started. This is such a good reminder to every blogger out there!

    xo Ashley

  21. Great guidelines... comparing ourselves with other bloggers is always profitable!!

  22. I love, love love the idea of having blog commandments. You are a brand, and every brand has mission/vision statements, so this is incredibly smart. I think knowing your strength is super important, especially whenever you feel a bit down on yourself!

    xo, Alicia | Alicia Tenise

  23. I love this post!! You're not the only one going through it. Every now and then I start comparing myself to other bloggers. It's really hard to remember that you can't compare someone middle to your beginning. I think it's great to have blog commandments. I believe that it's great to know your strengths and who you are never change that just to follow the trend. I hope you keep your head up and your spirits high.

  24. This is perfect. It can be so challenging to look to other blogs for inspiration and slowly stray away from the true message the blog.

  25. This is great. I LOVE that you wrote guidelines for yourself. I think as a blogger it is really important for us to stay true to ourselves and our brand.

    xoxo, Danielle

  26. All I need to say is I NEEDED THIS POST TODAY. Caps lock needed as well. ;-) Thank-you for blessing my heart and sanity when I needed it!

    xoxo A

  27. I love that you laid all of these out and shared them! I think these can hold true and be great reminders for so many bloggers out there (I know I definitely needed it today!). Great post SS!! Hope you are having a good week :)

    Pick Your Beau

  28. These are great guidelines to live by. Blogging can be extremely difficult if you don't know where you stand or you have been putting a lot in without very much in return. It's all worth it though, to create content that you enjoy creating!

  29. I definitely always try and stay true to myself! Even if people don't like it, I won't change who I am or my style just to please other people! Thank you for sharing this!

    Xo // www.thematerialgirl.co

  30. Great post! It's easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to others, but we're all different - I always do what I enjoy on my blog :)

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  31. Dana these are such absolutely wonderful things to keep in mind! I believe that a blog should reflect your personality, so there shouldn't really be a standard to hold yourself to. You are by far one of my favorite bloggers, this is a really great read! :)