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Wednesday, February 18, 2015

Wednesday Wisdom: Dealing with Gossip

First of all, I want to say that I apologize that my blog has lacked "rhythm" lately.  I try to keep certain types of posts on certain days, but this month has just been a little bit of everywhere!  (I'm also hoping to do more fashion posts when it starts to thaw out a little outside, so if you have any suggestions of trends or outfits you'd like to see me take on, I'd love to hear your suggestions!)

Sticking with the "Wednesday Wisdom" theme, I wanted to talk about something that I see is afflicting a lot of people in my life right now:  Gossip.  I have friends, family, and co-workers dealing with divorce, major health issues, and family drama, and it breaks my heart.  I really feel like it has been laid on my heart to say something.

I found out about a really touchy situation by walking in on one of the strongest people I know sobbing uncontrollably.  One of the things that we talked about was how dealing with something heavy is hard enough, but it makes it even harder when you know everyone knows, and you feel like you have a million eyes on you and a million mouths spreading misinformation.  Her advice to people that were concerned about the situation?  Talk to her.  Such a simple thing that I think so many of us avoid like the plague.  If someone is going through something rough and you genuinely want to help, talk to them!  Ask them what you can do.  And when someone asks you about the situation?  Tell them to ask the person.  It's not your story to tell. 

I'm not going to pretend that I'm a saint.  Like all women, I have been guilty of gossiping so many times, and I probably will be until the day that I die.  But it's a trait that I've noticed about myself and that I'm working really hard to improve upon.  After having that little seed planted, I've found myself approaching people who are hurting instead of speculating with others about what we could possibly do to help them or what might be hurting them.

This week, I challenge you to remember the quote above "If it's not your story to tell, you don't tell it."

How do you deal with gossip?

Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; Keep watch over the door of my lips. - Psalms 141:3




  1. This is such good advice. It can be easy to talk about people when you don't consider the effects!

    Alex | Mrs. Mason Dixon

  2. So true. I find myself gossiping and it's so hard to back away sometimes. This is a great post! More Wednesday Wisdom!

    xo Hannah Kate

  3. That is SUCH a good quote! More people should do this IMHO! :)

    I've noticed gossip a lot more in the workplace than I ever did at school - at school everyone knew everyone's business it didn't seem like gossip as you'd hear something in the morning and you either already knew, or the person would confirm it to you that afternoon. There wasn't really secrets.
    But in the there is a lot going on there. Some people like their private lives to be private from their professional lives, and there are people in the office who thing they are entitled to speculate on personal and private matters. I think, as you found, that when you get hit with a situation where you did, where you know how much the situation and the gossip is impacting on someone, that's when you start to make a change for the better. And even a little change can have massive impacts for the better! :)

    Away From The Blue

    1. I agree! I was shocked to discover that. I also think that some people just don't realize that certain things aren't acceptable topics at work! Thanks for such a sweet comment :) Xo