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Wednesday, January 7, 2015

Wednesday Wisdom: Respecting Opinions

Adorable printable above  from Spiritually Speaking!

Last night, I expressed my (apparently very unpopular) opinion on Lilly for Target.  I'm just not that excited about it y'all, and it's probably not for the reasons you think.  I was shocked at the backlash my opinion was receiving; not that people didn't agree, but because grown adults were so uncivil about their disagreement!  Because I had a differing opinion on a clothing brand, I was now a snob, elitist, pretentious, pessimistic, and my daddy financed my life.  I honestly felt like I was back in middle school!  (I even deleted my twitter because the negativity was so draining and overwhelming.)  I am so thankful that we live in a country where we can all voice our opinions, but  I wish people weren't so quick to straight up bash someone else's opinion.

I grew up in a very rural community, and I've lived in smaller towns in East Tennessee my entire life.  The mall here is pretty basic - Belk, JC Penney, and Sears are the anchors; American Eagle and Victoria's Secret are the "trendy" stores.  There's a mile 30 minutes away with a little more - Dick's, Hollister, A&F, Forever 21.  I remember just how excited I would get when my mom told me we were going to Knoxville to go shopping!  We would go a few times a year - Christmas shopping, back to school shopping, and Easter dress shopping.  Because of this, shopping has always been about "the experience" to me.  There was something so fun about getting up early, making that long drive, having food court food for lunch, and visiting the HUGE Barnes & Noble on the way home.

As I got older and more into fashion, I would hoard my money from holidays and working at my mom's business, and then buy a new back to school wardrobe when we went on vacation.  It was something that I looked forward to all year!  I will never forget the year my dad took me to Macy's in NYC around Christmastime while we were there visiting family.  My eyes had to be the size of silver dollars the entire time I was in that place.  I even remember the first time I went to an H&M!  To me, it was something new and exciting because we didn't have those at home, and it wasn't available online.

Going shopping for Lilly Pulitzer dresses was a whole new level of special!  My mom surprised me with my first Lilly dress after a trip to Vanderbilt... My cancer was gone, and it was a cause for celebration!  (It was also an attempt to get me to wear a sleeveless dress, since it was May and I was still wearing long sleeves to avoid showing the surgery scars on my arm.)  For my twenty-first birthday, we drove up to Asheville, and I picked out the most amazing dress ever for my birthday celebrations.  My boyfriend bought me the cutest Lilly earrings for our first Christmas together.  All of my Lilly dresses and items are connected to an event or a memory, and that's why I love them so much.

So when I say that I'm not excited about Lilly at Target, it's because in my eyes, at least temporarily, the experience is gone.  It's not exciting to me that I can scoop up a new Lilly and a 12 pack of toilet paper at the same store less than ten minutes from my house.  But I am pretty excited about that Lilly hammock I keep hearing about, and I keep trying to think of what in the world I could do with it.  (That would definitely be an experience... and probably a trip to the hospital.)

So what I'm using all of that to say is that just because someone has a different opinion than you doesn't make them wrong or right, and really doesn't open up the opportunity to bash them.  Always remember - you attract more flies with honey than you do with vinegar ;)

That's my opinion... Now I would love to hear yours. :)

XX,

SS

8 comments:

  1. Oh my goodness, I am SO sorry to hear the abuse you just went through. People are freakin' crazy these days. Keyboard warriors. There is a difference between having an opinion and being a straight out bully. Those things that people called you is so shocking, and it genuinely makes me SO mad. You have EVERY right to voice YOUR opinion. If you like something, then great, if you don't, then that's a lesson learned, people these days feel it is in their place to put others down. So irritating. Again, I am so sorry to hear this, you seem like such a sweet and genuine woman, and to hear that you felt the need to delete twitter over silly people like that makes me sad. I value you opinion, they are always honest, which is important to me.

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    1. "Keyboard Warriors" - I love that! Thanks for teaching me some new terminology :) You are so right - people do feel like it's their job to put others down, and that's a shame. Imagine how many positive things could happen if we lifted each other up and appreciated differences in opinions! Thank you for always being so sweet, Miriam! Xoxoxoxo

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  2. It's too bad people couldn't just agree to disagree with your opinion that you're totally in the right to have. Personally, I sometimes find Lilly overpriced (gasp, I know) so I'm excited to check out a more affordable version of it.
    -Alex
    www.monstermisa.blogspot.com

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    1. Girlfriend, I feel you! Do you ever use Re-Lilly? I've only shopped there once, but I had a really positive experience. (And got a NWT dress that was a couple of years old for $35!!)

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  3. So sorry to hear about that! Some adults need to learn to respect other people's point of view (aka learning to behave like adults). :-) I totally get your point of view...saving up money through the year to go into X spendy store feels somewhat neat! However, as my sister pointed out, now we have yet another reason to go hang out and buy random [lilly] stuff at Target! ;-)

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    1. Haha, that is so true! Instead of buying completely random stuff at Target like I tend to do, I can buy random Lilly stufff... doesn't sound too bad :)

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  4. Although we have differing opinions on the subject, I can't help but want to apologize for people treating you badly! I love the idea of seeing more Lilly accessories, etc. but you're right about it not being "special" at least for a short amount of time. Let's just be thankful it will be a short collaboration & maybe it will add some more customers for Lilly!
    Thanks for always having such great posts & never, ever let mean people get to you :)

    xoxo, SS

    www.TheSouthernStylista.blogspot.com

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    1. I agree - it will be a great way to help people get to know the brand! Thanks for always being so sweet! Xo

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