Non-Negotiables | Seersucker Sass

Wednesday, August 20, 2014


My friend SF is probably the funniest person that I know.  I can be having the absolute worst day at work, and she will make some comment that will turn my sad tears into crying tears.  #thankful  The other day, SF and I were being typical girls and discussing what we want our weddings to be like when the time comes.  SF said that her "non-negotiables" were lobster and champagne for each guest, so if that meant having a wedding on an obscure day and only inviting 30 people, it would just have to happen like that.  At first, I thought it was the most ridiculous thing that I had ever heard.  But when she used the term "non-negotiables," I knew that she meant business.  

Compromise is a very important part of life, but so are the non-negotiables. In my eyes, the non-negotiables are the things that make us who we are and can define our character.  I accepted my job offer because I wanted a job where every day would be something new; for me, that is a non-negotiable. In a relationship, my biggest non-negotiable is honesty.  Feeling like someone is dishonest with you is one of the worst feelings in the world, and once trust is broken, it's never the same.  I even have non-negotiables in clothing - I don't like anything that's too short, shows my stomach, or is ill fitting.

Today is only Wednesday, but I am feeling pretty beat down by the week already.  If you're in the same boat that I am, take a moment to think about what your non-negotiables are.  Is the reason that you're feeling beat down related to some of your non-negotiables?  Maybe it's time to cut off a dead end friendship or get back to having 8 hours of sleep a night with that non-negotiable bedtime of 10 pm?  Maybe it's time to start looking for a new job where your time and talents will be appreciated?

I hope that your week is going well, so far!  Thank goodness that we're on the downward slope towards the weekend from here!

What are your non-negotiables?



P.S. - I know that I have been doing a lot of composition-esque writing lately, but I'm planning to have some fashion pieces the rest of the week!

P.P.S. - This post is dedicated to my sweet friend Katy.  I am so proud of her.


  1. I'm planning a wedding right now and I can already tell you, that sticking to that "non-negotiable" menu and a limited guest list is going to be damn near impossible! Especially since the wedding business nickels-and-dimes you for everything lol! I would say my non-negotiables are people who lie to me when I know the truth. I hate lies. They only exist to cover up an insecurity or you being afraid of the truth.

    Hope you have a good week!

  2. I was totally talking about weddings with my friend too - it's good to know we're not the only ones jumping the gun a bit!
    I definitely have some non negotiable to think about and reinforce. I would list a few, but it would probably get out of hand!
    Hope your week picks up a bit!