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Thursday, March 20, 2014

Who Controls Your Happiness?

I feel like where I work, weeks alternate between being super amazing and smooth to so rocky that I want to quit my job, throw my cell phone in the river, pack up my Vera Bradley duffel bag, and go live with my dad 400 miles away.  There really isn't an in-between.  And this week, so far at least, has been the latter.

For as long as I can remember, the one piece of advice that my dad has always given me is "You control your own happiness."  After bad days and breakups, he would always tell me not to dwell on it, and go do something that would make me happy.

So often, when things go wrong in our lives, we as humans are quick to either point fingers or pout.  We don't want to admit that we are living with the consequences of a decision or that bad days happen to us all.  What pulls me out of my bad days ruts is knowing that all of this discomfort is temporary.  If you waste your time dwelling on the negative, you could miss out on some really positive opportunities!

For the most part, you have an opportunity to control who is in your life.  Sure, you can't help it that you have some negative co-workers and family members, but you can take control of who you spend your time with outside of your 9 to 5 life.  If you're in a relationship that is constantly the source of your unhappiness, cut ties.  (Do you really want to spend the rest of your life unhappy with someone?  I'd rather be alone and unhappy than unhappily stuck with someone.)  If you have a "friend" that's a big ball of negative energy, choose not to surround yourself with that!

Having a relationship with Christ is definitely the main source of my happiness.  Because of Him, I have been blessed with friendships, opportunities, and a relationship that make me happier than I've ever been. 

I hope that reading this will make you think about who controls your happiness.   It's never too late to take back the control.

I hope you have a very HAPPY Thursday!



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  1. I love this post, so often we forget that WE care in control of many things that make us unhappy... and with Christ as the center, happiness seems to fall into place!

    1. Absolutely! The sooner we all realize that, I think the world will be a happier place :)

  2. I LOVE this! Good for you for having that outlook :) I'm in grad school to become a school counselor, and this is actually one of the ideas I've incorporated into my counseling techniques!


  3. Great advice! Thanks girl. I know bad weeks at work can be the worst, hang in there! Make the best of it and work towards your goals!

    1. Today I realized that because I had busted my butt all week, I'm basically keeping myself busy :) Fingers crossed that next week is better, but if not, they can't all be bad weeks!

      Hope you have a wonderful weekend!

  4. This really resonated with me! I was talking about something similar as far as friendships on my blog today and I'm glad to see that someone else has the same idea about it! Whenever I'm feeling down about my day I always try to do something that makes me happy or do something productive! :)

    Marie H.
    Progression By Design