Seersucker Sass: December 2013

Monday, December 16, 2013

Relationships: Like a Bird Out of a Cage

It has happened to us all...  Friends, family, and creepy exes find out that your relationship has ended, and they all want to know how you're doing.  My response is always "I feel like a bird out of a cage."

When things fell apart with the guy that I was seeing this summer, I surrounded myself with my sisters.  I let the most fulfilling relationships of my life be with God, my sisters, and a handful of my best friends.  There was no need for a man in my life, and there was no void in my heart, so to speak.  I felt free.  I no longer had my phone glued to my hip, I would leave it in my purse for hours without checking it.  I would go to work events and flirt, laugh, and have an all around good time with my co-workers.  I would go out for drinks, go to brunch, go on weekend getaways, do whatever my heart desired.  I didn't realize how unhappy and trapped I felt in that relationship until I was out of it.

Last night on my four hour drive home from visiting my wonderful boyfriend, I had a lot of time to think.  The way that I feel now is a way that I've never felt before about anyone that I've dated.  Even though I'm in a relationship, I feel like a bird out of a cage.

I've always loved to travel, and I've met a man who loves the same thing.  Our long distance relationship has given us the opportunity to explore little towns along the way in between the two cities where we live, and stop at plenty of Cracker Barrels along the way.

We find excitement in the smallest things.  We go to bookstores and flip through autobiographies, pointing out passages of interest to the other.  We go to Target and get a buggy for the sole purpose of putting our popcorn in it, and sometimes, he pushes me around on the cart.  We go on golf cart rides.  We roll around on the floor with his dog.  We try new beers with our dinner.  I've never felt so alive doing such ordinary things.

We support each other.  He took time off of work to drive to where I live to help out with an event that I had planned.  If he has to work while I'm in town, I take him snacks.  We have a 30 minute phone conversation every day on my way home from work to vent about our days.

My lesson behind all of this is that being in a relationship shouldn't feel like you're in a cage.  Wait for someone who makes ordinary things feel extraordinary.  Most importantly, trust in God's timing.  He's the one man that will never lead you astray!



Friday, December 13, 2013

SS plays Elf: My Christmas Gifting Guide

For once in my life, I have not waited until December 22 to purchase Christmas gifts.  Here are my "top picks" this season.  Hope they help you out a little bit!

For the man in your life:

My boyfriend pointed a set of these Teroforma whisky stones out to me while shopping last week.  Chill a few of the stones and use them in place of ice.  Your drink will stay cold, but won't be watered down. Perfect for any of the men in your life!

Whisky Stones

For those "gag gift" parties:

I'm slightly obsessed with this!  I can never bring myself to bring something overly tacky or tasteless to a "gag gift" party, so this is perfect.  So leave the Bean-o and whoopie cushions at home and bring this kitschy, useful little gift instead!

For your sister that just landed her first "big girl job:"

She will need one of these babies, trust me.  A fun thumb drive will put a little sunshine into an otherwise boring day in Corporate America!

For the World's Best Momma:

This classic bag is the perfect gift for Mommas.  It's huge, so she'll have no problem fitting anything she might possible need in there.  Plus, its water resistant, making it a great year round bag!

For the best friend a girl could ask for:

I absolutely adore Philosophy products.  My grandmother buys me a stash of them every year for Christmas, and its something that I always look forward to.  To me, they're the perfect products for pampering on a budget.  As much as I would love to get my best friend a $300 spa package (believe me, she deserves it,) this little taste of Heaven is more friendly to my budget.

What are your "top picks" for Christmas this year?  I'd love to hear!  Have an amazing weekend!